Heart of Gold

So what I haven’t said about my conversations with Jonathan… is was what I haven’t said. I mean, what I wasn’t saying at the time. Which is to say that every time we talked about anything, I meant to bring up the question of Thanksgiving and every time we got sidetracked into something else–usually some other relationship talk. So I finally brought it up one night when I couldn’t sleep because it felt like it had gotten to the point that it was hanging over me so much that it was keeping me from sleeping.

I poked Jonathan in the arm. “Hey.”

“Hey,” he said back, but I don’t think he was awake yet.

“Hey, can I ask you something?”

He blinked and squinted at me. “What? Is something wrong?”

That was a loaded question if ever I heard one. I didn’t answer it. Not directly anyway. “I don’t want you to think I’m the crazy sort who wakes you up to talk about trivial things, but at the same time what I need to ask you is one of those things that I’ve been trying not to make a big deal out of, except that now I’m waking you up in the middle of the night…” That sounded crazy, even to me, and I tried to take it back. “Never mind, go back to sleep. I’ll ask you in the morning.”

He sat up. “Waitasec. You want to ask me something but you don’t want to make a big deal out of it. Except that you woke me up in the middle of the night about it?”

“Forget it. I promise I’ll ask you in the morning.”

“I’m awake now, Daron, and too curious to go back to sleep.” He turned his little bedside reading lamp on. J liked to sleep in a plain white undershirt, one that was so soft and worn that it was nearly see-through, and the whiteness was bright in the cone of light. “Is this about that phone call from Carynne?”

While living with him I’d gotten into the habit of changing shirts before going to sleep. Before that I had usually fallen asleep in whatever clothes I was wearing. I rubbed my face and sat up, too.

Best just to blurt it out, I thought, now that my preamble to it was so messed up and before he got me sidetracked into talking about BNC. “Remo invited us to his house for Thanksgiving.”

“That’s nice of him. Does he want us to bring anything?”

“Um, wait. I told him I’d ask you if it was okay.”

“Why wouldn’t it be okay?”

“Uh…” I tried to remember what my rationale was. “I didn’t want to make the assumption that I could speak for both of us. And at the time I thought you might want to visit your folks or something.”

“Well, honestly my mother did ask if I was coming home and if I was bringing you, but I told her I didn’t want to have to fly all the way across the country just for a three-day visit. And I can’t spare more time than that. So she asked if you’d come for Christmas.”

“What did you tell her?”

“I told her I’d ask you.”

“Aha.” We both laughed a little at that. Apparently, for once, we’d both thought along the same lines. “I know we won’t be invited to Remo’s for that since he’ll be in Japan.”

He seemed to me to be holding very still. “Well, then? Will you come meet my family?”

I thought I was pretty smooth about it. “I should head east to see Carynne and the guys anyway….”

“You’d be only the second guy I brought home to meet them.”

“You’re kidding.”

“I’m not. I’ve had lots of relationships, Daron, lots of boyfriends, but very few serious enough to bring home.”

“Okay, okay, can we talk about that? This, I mean?” Yes, that’s right, I was demanding that we talk about the thing I’d been refusing to talk about for months.

“Of course we can,” Jonathan said, though I don’t think he knew yet that I was intending to talk about our relationship as a whole, yet.

“What does it mean to meet your folks? To you, I mean? If you didn’t bring other guys home before.” I couldn’t figure out what I was trying to ask. “I mean, what’s different about me?”

“Maybe I feel more strongly about you,” he said, which made my heart sink. “Maybe it’s just I’m older and more sure of myself. And I think my parents will like you.”

“You’re kidding, right?”

“No, I think you’ll get along great with them.”

“Why? I have a terrible relationship with my own parents and your parents are surely going to see me as a bad influence.” This conversation wasn’t going the direction I intended at all, but I felt I had to say this. “I mean, think about it, J. I don’t have a college education. I’m a rock musician. I’m most parents’ idea of a disreputable character.”

“Well, sure, at first they were really worried when I said I was getting involved with a celebrity I wrote about, but now I’m not on that beat anymore, and you’re…” He stopped himself before he could say what he meant.

“I’m what, not on the A list anymore?”

“No no, you’re… you don’t come across like some kind of Satanist metalhead or something, do you know what I mean? You’re not pretentious. You’re a nice, hardworking guy, Daron. I’m sure you’d give a perfectly good impression. Especially lately.”

“What? Especially lately?” There it was again, that feeling like we were having two different conversations. “You mean, now that I’m not on the road?”

“Partly, yes.” He was looking at me earnestly.

This conversation wasn’t going remotely the way I had intended, and now I couldn’t even remember where I had been trying to steer it.

He saw how lost I was. He took my hand. “I know it isn’t really what either of us expected…”

I was thinking: Wait, what isn’t what we expected? Are we talking about the same “it”?

“…but don’t you kind of think we have a good thing going here?”

That sinking feeling for me hit bottom with a clank. I’d definitely let this go way too long without saying something. But what would I have said? Thanks for letting me play house? For that matter what was I going to say now? Anything I could think of to say was going to burst his bubble. And I didn’t want to hurt him. I didn’t want to be cruel. “J–”

“I’m not saying it’s going to last forever. When this gig runs its course for me, I don’t know what I’m going to do. But look at you. You’ve really settled into session work–”

I jerked. It didn’t matter what I was thinking or what I was trying to make myself think–my nerves rebelled and the result was I twitched–I cringed.

He backtracked before I could come up with any words. “I know it’s not the peak of fame. I know it’s not everything you could dream of. But isn’t it…? At least a little? Some of what you wished for in life…?”

I swallowed the lump in my throat then, trying to swallow my pride and my objections. Because he was right. Could I have imagined a life this good, with a man who loved me, and steady work in music, and everything else, three or four years ago when I was still in the closet, desperately lonely, and wondering if I’d be out on the street in a month? What the fuck kind of ungrateful sonofabitch was I to be thinking this wasn’t enough?

But the plain truth was that no matter how good it could be, it had always felt like a plateau, a waystation, a way to fill the time until either my career took off again or until Ziggy came home. It always always felt that way to me and I didn’t go a day without thinking it: I’d just never said it. And I’d never said it because it would have been a shitty, hurtful thing to say. It would have sapped this of whatever sweetness it might have had…

And then the bottom dropped out again, whoom, when I thought I had already hit the bottom. Because… what if I was full of shit? What if this was the best my career could do? What if Ziggy never came home? What if Moondog Three was in the past, and if I threw all this with Jonathan away to chase after a past that was already gone, I was a fool? What if?

I choked suddenly, because I had gone so deep down the rabbit hole of my doubts that I hadn’t realized I was crying.

And Jonathan, being the deep, caring sort of boyfriend he was, pulled me close and let me cry on his shoulder, even though he was half of what I was crying about. Could he tell I was grieving? It felt like grieving to me. My idealism about how the relationship should have been was dying.

Or maybe I just felt sorry for myself, for putting myself into such a deep bind to begin with. Jonathan being so good to me made it even harder to tell him what I was thinking.

I was thinking it had been fun playing house with him, but that’s all it was ever going to be for me until I knew for sure Ziggy wasn’t waltzing back into my life. Ziggy was the elephant in the room. Didn’t Jonathan know that? Jonathan knew that. I was sure he did. And yet…

And yet maybe he was trying to show me how much better it could be. How much saner a relationship could be. How nice and stable. Or even just how nice. Yes, that’s what he’s said a few minutes before. “A good thing going,” he had said.

I finally found my voice. I was pressing one of his hands against my damp cheek with both of mine, when I said, “I don’t know if I’m cut out for this.”

“For what?” he whispered.

“Being happy.”

“Don’t think like that.”

“You’ve worked so hard to make me happy and here I am crying.”

“Shhh. It’s okay.”

“It’s not okay. Do I make you happy, J?”

“You do. Even if you get like this sometimes. It’s okay, D. I’m here.”

That just made it worse. I dug down to an even lower low than before. I dug down to the level where I felt like the problem was that I couldn’t be happy no matter what. Something was seriously wrong with me. How could I not appreciate what I had right in front of me? I was really fucked up.

But J seemed okay with that. He seemed to expect it. He knew how messed up my childhood had been. He knew how screwed by the industry I was. He knew everything. How could I leave someone who knew me so well? Who knew me that well but stuck by me anyway?

“I don’t want to hurt you,” I said.

“You’re not hurting me. Even if you tell me you won’t meet my parents.”

“I didn’t say I wouldn’t meet your parents.”

“We can figure that out later. Maybe I’ll just bring you for dinner. A couple of hours. Nothing too lengthy. Christmas Eve dinner is when we do the big turkey and all that, and there’s lots of singing around the piano.”

“Oh.”

“Something tells me if you’re having trouble holding your own in conversations, you’ll have no trouble holding up your end of a Christmas carol.”

“Yeah.” Somehow talking about concrete things like turkey and singing yanked me out of the deepest depths of the mire. “Um, you’re probably right.”

“Let’s not decide now. Talk to Carynne and Bart about what they want to do, too. But if it works out, I’d love to bring you home with me, okay?”

Wasn’t that how he’d convinced me to move in with him in the first place? The whole “If it works out, I’d love to…” strategy? I went along with it before, I was probably going to go along with it again. But I said: “Why don’t we see how Thanksgiving goes? Maybe that’ll boost my confidence.”

“Okay.” He kissed me on the temple.

Jonathan was the path of least resistance, I realized. He made it easy to say yes. I wondered if that was why I didn’t appreciate him enough. Did I imagine that Ziggy was worth more to me because of how much work I’d put in trying to understand him?

That was the sort of thing Lacey would say. Time to put it out of my mind before I went around in a complete circle again. “We better go back to sleep. You have to get up in the morning. I’m sorry I woke you.” With my stupid angst.

“‘I’m not,” he said. “I’d much rather talk about something important than have you lie there stewing.”

“You are too good to me.”

“I understand your needs. Now come on, if we’re actually going to get to sleep now, we both need to shut off our brains. I only know one thing that works for you.”

He was talking about jerking me off. “Are you sure?”

“I’m sure. And then we’ll both we asleep in under five minutes. Roll over.”

He reached for the bottle of lube. As he took hold of me I realized how different this was from the way I imagined relationships would be. I never imagined that something as charged as someone’s hand on my private parts could become so common and comfortable between me and another person. It was as simple and yet as intimate as something like the way I drank the milk out of J’s cereal bowl when we had breakfast together.

He was right. We were both unconscious shortly thereafter.


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Comments 10

  1. LenaLena wrote:

    Yech. That list is topped by all those horrible Mykles books. What is wrong with people?

    BTW, thanks for making me cry at 9 am in the morning….

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    ctan Reply:

    Are they not good? I haven’t read them.

    And… you’re welcome? (This was a rough one, I know.)

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    AK Reply:

    ** sniff, sniff ** I too was pulling out my tissue at 9 am.

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    ctan Reply:

    Awh! I feel like I should apologize. But I’m too happy to have company.

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    LenaLena Reply:

    They are…. inane. One dimensional, trope filled, cliche laden bits of romance fluff with repetitive writing that have dick all to do with music. I read the first and thought it was crap. Then someone said the third one was good and had a femme MC, so I read that. This is what I thought of that one:

    https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/373620688

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    ctan Reply:

    Oh dear. Well, a lot of people like their fluff, it’s just not usually what I’m looking for. One of my pet peeves about romance in general is books that give the main characters interesting or exotic professions and then there is nothing about them in the book. You know, like she’s a brain surgeon or something but other than a few token scenes at the hospital there’s actually nothing remotely brain-surgery-related in the book. I know most aren’t like that–in fact most of the authors I know will gleefully research way more about brain surgery than necessary for a realistic characterization. But it bugs me when things seems so thin.

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    Andrea Reply:

    Have to agree. The M/M field is saturated with a lot of crap writing. Daron’s is refreshingly realistic. Oh, and I went and voted. Go Daron’s!
    https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/2535.Best_Gay_Rockers

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    ctan Reply:

    I think fiction genres overall can attract a lot of crap writing, because some readers can get past the bad writing to get the emotional kick or experience from the book that they want. That’s perfectly fine–just like some people really like to eat McDonald’s or Kentucky Fried Chicken. Others can’t stomach it. When a book is well written, though, I love it!

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    LenaLena Reply:

    These books are exactly like that. These guys could be models or actors and the story would barely change.

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 11:27 am
  2. Averin wrote:

    Voted and voted.

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    ctan Reply:

    Thank you! It’s up to #37 on GR! If 3 more people vote it’ll crack the top 30…

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    Joe Reply:

    All 5 books are up there, plus the Omnibus, so people can vote for all of them.

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    ctan Reply:

    Coolness. I don’t know how much the list will lead new people into reading it, but what the hey, maybe it will. :-)

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 1:21 pm
  3. Nona wrote:

    That moment when you cringed? That’s when you should have told him. Remo would take you in, no problem there.

    Because, that moment? Was when he made clear that he doesn’t understand you at all.

    Plus, the path of least resistance and making it so easy to go along? Not good signs either. J seems too nice to be trying to be manipulative, but first with moving in and now with Xmas seems like gentle manipulation. I’m betting he learned it young from his family.

    Get out, Daron, before you find yourself in a miserably safe life.

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    daron Reply:

    Because, that moment? Was when he made clear that he doesn’t understand you at all.

    Exactly. God, it was like realizing I had fallen into the Twilight Zone. Or that Talking Heads song. “Letting the days go by…”

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 2:30 pm
  4. sanders wrote:

    “I don’t know if I’m cut out for this.”

    “For what?” he whispered.

    “Being happy.”

    This isn’t happy, D. What he’s asking you for is settling. He’s telling you to be happy with some of what you wanted for career and less than you deserve, less than your talent is worth. Even without the rest of your relationship or the elephant Ziggy in the room, that’s twisted, and falls so far short of “understanding your needs” I don’t even have words for it.

    I understand the temptation to look around and say “This is good enough,” because you have something stable and basic needs are met, but those are the moments when people who could be exceptional become mediocre and start looking back and saying, “I wonder if…” instead of doing. Please don’t be that person, and don’t let any relationship shape you into that.

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    daron Reply:

    He doesn’t understand me, but I don’t expect that. Maybe what he doesn’t understand is that no relationship, not even a perfect one, is worth compromising music. And maybe he’s making so many compromises himself right now that he doesn’t even realize what he’s asking. And maybe that’s why I keep dragging him back to talking about his work. Hmmm.

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 4:45 pm
  5. Joe wrote:

    It seems to me that it’s not a matter of “settling” so much as figuring out what the fuck you want out of life. You need to figure that out. You. You’re responsible for you. And if you can’t figure it out on your own, get some damn therapy.

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    daron Reply:

    I know what I want out of life. I just don’t know what I want out of relationships… other than Ziggy minus the bullshit. Or at least I’ve figured out that what I do want out of relationships isn’t really this.

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 5:32 pm
  6. Jack wrote:

    OK. This made my messed up relationships seem normal. Run, Daron, run now and long and far. Just saying.

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    daron Reply:

    Yeah. How can two people are are trying so hard to make it work fail to make it work? We’re just not right for each other.

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 6:19 pm
  7. LenaLena wrote:

    By the way, I’ve added all the other Daron books to that list. You can vote for those too!

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    ctan Reply:

    Cool! Oh wait, I can’t. It doesn’t look right when the author votes for their own book… >.>

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    Posted 15 Oct 2013 at 7:58 pm
  8. Songquake wrote:

    Oh, Daron. This is not a good thing–I mean, you’re kind of hoping for something better than what you’ve got with J, and that’s not fair to either of you.

    On the other hand, I can also relate to J…and so can Simon and Garfunkel: http://youtu.be/sVdBfmU9-zc (crappy recording is worth it for the looks the two give each other).

    I mean, there’s contentment with a bit of discontent (and the tension of wanting more from your career, and a different sort of love); and there’s everything cooking at a temperature so high you’re afraid you’ll burn into ash and gas. And these are both viable options.

    And both terrifying ones.

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    daron Reply:

    It’s actually less terrifying than I thought it would be, though. Or at least I’m less terrified than I used to be, in general. I hope that means I’m able to think more clearly about it…? Hopefully?

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    LenaLena Reply:

    Thinking is a bit overrated in these cases, though. Your gut feeling is usually more honest than all the rationalizations your brain comes up with.

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    daron Reply:

    Well, except it’s my gut feelings of terror and paranoia that made such a wreck of my relationship with Ziggy.

    Or maybe Ziggy made a wreck of it and I should just move on for fuck’s sake. I don’t know.

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    ctan Reply:

    I wonder what the fanfic world would be like if there had been slash bandom/bandom slash in the sixties…

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    Posted 16 Oct 2013 at 1:13 am
  9. LenaLena wrote:

    This quote from Bob Marley just flashed across my dash (who knows if it’s really his) and it seemed appropriate if you switch pronouns.

    “If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy. … Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.”

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    daron Reply:

    Could be the lyrics to a song, pretty much.

    I don’t think Jonathan’s problem is that he’s not worth it or that he’s too easy. It’s that we’re not actual a fit for each other.

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    LenaLena Reply:

    I my head it applied more to Ziggy than Jonathan, but however you want to read it….

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    daron Reply:

    I mean, I was thinking of Ziggy. But then I looked at it and it seemed like it could mean my way of hiding from the old wounds is to stay in this dreamworld with J, a dream I’ll never wake up from if I don’t do something about it. Yeah, there are a ton of things I haven’t said to Ziggy, but there are also so many things I didn’t say to Jonathan so as not to rock the boat.

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    LenaLena Reply:

    I think you have a point there. It’s like you’re using J as a bandaid for the wounds Ziggy inflicted.

    The part that struck me as most true in this quote though (because let’s face it, there are a lot of shades between easy and amazing and things aren’t ever so black and white) is the ‘everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for’. Love and Hurt are opposite sides of the medal, the deeper you love the deeper you can be hurt, but it can be worth it.

    It’s self-love that keeps you from being obliterated though.

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    daron Reply:

    J’s a good band-aid. I’m not sure that’s enough for him, though.

    “It’s self-love that keeps you from being obliterated though.”
    Yeah. Working on it.

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    Posted 16 Oct 2013 at 8:43 pm
  10. s wrote:

    I have to say, it has been a joy watching you grow up. I think, ultimately, this failed relationship will help you figure out what you really do want. I’m not going to beat you up about anything, because…well, you already know.

    And I feel better knowing that you know and will eventually get out of this relationship. It’s not a healthy relationship, no matter how hard you are trying. Sometimes, it just takes the right moment, or right someone, to give you the final reason to leave.

    *ZIGGY!!!!*

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    daron Reply:

    Yeah. Exactly.

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    Bill Heath Reply:

    Settling is far easier in the straight world,, or at least the mostly straight world.

    Forty years ago I settled. I loved my wife and we already had a one-year old. Two years later we had another girl. Today I have healthy relationships with two amazing women, one forty one, the other thirty eight. I could never have had that if I had not settled.

    I had three dreams, any of which would have fulfilled me.

    I had already made my living as a music performer and was good, just unwilling to work hard enough to be better. I returned to music at the age of 63 as a composer and conductor.

    The second dream was writing, which I started at 65. I’m still searching for a genre, and am all over the place.

    The third dream was getting paid for thinking. I did that from 2001 through 2012 as a top tier management consultant.

    But I never really fully achieved any of the dreams, just played with them. And, had I not settled, I would never have achieved the greatest thing in my life, my two daughters.

    You’re gay and you’re not going to have children. In short, refuse to settle. In your place I wouldn’t consider it.

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    daron Reply:

    Yeah, I know I can’t settle but I can’t being myself to be a dick about it either.

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    Posted 03 Apr 2015 at 1:11 pm

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